Fairytales are for fairies

a shot from one of my fav movies

Fairytales are for fairies. Yes! These stories are told to water the buds of young girls, aren't they? If you did English in school you can tell from the name: fairytales, just like Nigeriantales, Africantales...

I know you too want one of those fairytale love. Where we hear too much details of how prince charming woos Cinderella and soon she falls "head over heels" for him. If you were critical like I can be, you will think she is the 21st century slay queen, wearing sneakers, only that this slay queen isn't tripping head over heels for the 'prince charming. She simply falls because she didn't tie her shoe lace well.


But girls don't fall 'head over heels' again, do they? Do they still do in this 21st century? Do they even let their pile of books fall just to get his attention? Do they still do that? I doubt. With these girls all choked by pride. It won't be a bad thing to see a girl fall head over hills though. Or even see her drop her books to get my attention. Hahahaha.
Back to the fairytale.

Did you notice that no one tells us what happens after the courtship and wedding. We simply are led like sheep to the slaughter with the phrase "happily ever after." And like we always do, we assume that the marriage was a perfect one simply because 'happy' should mean all that is good? Happiness sometimes is a choice and not brought about by circumstances but by a willingness to see that despite the hard times, we do not lose our joy.

This assumption is sometimes the reason for failed marriages. A woman or man, wants to live a life written by one writer who probably is sitting in his couch drunk over cheap beer or simply enjoying a hot sunbath at the beach.

They both forget that marriage prospers on the wings of sheer commitment and responsibility. Both parties must commit to see that they make their union into something they both dream of. Not casting their faith on illusioned preconceptions of what should be and should not be.

My favourite statement about marriage is that "the man must learn all the skills a gardener needs to prune and nurture  his garden." He must sow the right words while harvesting what he has sown, in love. The gardener being the man and the garden, the woman.
Fairytales are never about marriages. "They are always about whirlwind romantic courtships. They cover a few years and end in 'ever after.' "

Fairytale doesn't do well in equipping young ladies on what to expect in marriage that would last for a life time. And it is only wise for parents and all that have this knowledge, to pass it down to the younger generation.

I don't think these fairytales are written to be taken seriously.

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